Promise is a profound concept with many interpretations and meanings. Fortunately, jewelry that symbolizes commitment isn't hard to define. No, we're not referring to wedding rings or engagement rings here, but the lighter, sleeker, and younger promise ring. It is an "in-between" ring that is neither as casual as a regular ring nor as formal as an engagement ring. Promise rings represent an exciting new trend and are a stepping stone for many love stories to develop.
WHAT IS A PROMISE RING?
A promise ring is an engagement ring in a relationship. In most cases, an engagement ring is given when a couple has been dating for 6 months to a year. It solidifies the status quo of the relationship and confirms that the relationship may move to the next stage, which is steady dating, cohabitation, formal engagement, or even marriage.
Exchanging promise rings is synonymous with formalizing a relationship without the intimacy and ceremony of a traditional engagement. However, promise rings are not a one-and-done approach. Many couples who give promise rings do not end up getting married and may even go their separate ways before finalizing their lifelong commitment.
ARE PROMISE RINGS FOR COUPLES ONLY?
The answer is no. Promise rings can be given for different reasons and can have any number of recipients and wearers. Essentially, it is a ring that indicates or symbolizes a promise. As such, friendship promise rings can be exchanged between best friends or used as a common symbol for a group of people with a specific affiliation or cause. You can even gift yourself a promise ring as a reminder of your commitment, such as a promise to stop smoking and drinking, or a gentle push to achieve a much-cherished goal.
WHAT DOES A PROMISE RING MEAN?
Promise Ring Meaning: Very simple – when you’re giving someone a promise ring, you’re saying ‘I promise myself to you’. A promise ring means the following:
A promise of commitment (towards a current relationship that may blossom into a lifelong marriage).
An intention of taking a current relationship to the next stage.
A declaration of love for those who may not be ready for an engagement but may be fully committed to the ‘now’.
A pledge of monogamy and exclusivity.
The bliss of love, connection, and togetherness.
WHAT ARE THE ORIGINS OF THE PROMISE RING?
There are various theories about the origin of the promise ring. Some say it originated in biblical times. It is said that the tradition of promise rings and engagement rings came about in the 13th century when the Pope mandated a period between engagement and marriage.
The trend resurfaced in the 16th century when young people wanted to profess their love for their beloved but were unable to get married right away. In versions from the 16th and 17th centuries, the rings were inscribed with romantic verses and poems. In the 1970s, promise rings took their place in the jewelry dictionary.
WHEN TO GIVE A PROMISE RING?
While promise rings aren't as important as "till death do us part," they do have important implications, not the least of which is - exclusivity. It's appropriate to give a promise ring to someone you've been dating for a while (at least a year), or to a partner (either a legal couple or a live-in partner) that you hope to spend the rest of your life with someday.
That said, for those who tend to favor "moments," a promise ring is a great alternative to an engagement ring because it brings a fleeting sense of commitment that allows the future to take shape on its own. However, the rules don't always apply when it comes to gifting a promise ring. If you feel you are ready for exclusivity at any stage of your relationship, then a promise ring is the right choice.
HOW SHOULD A PROMISE RING BE GIVEN?
Often, couples will discuss purchasing a promise ring together. However, if you want to surprise him/her with a birthday, anniversary, or Valentine's Day gift as a present, make sure to explain that it is a promise ring and not an engagement ring, don't raise the other person's expectations. Pair the ring with a romantic/explanatory note.
Conversely, if you are unsure of your partner's true feelings, do not purchase a promise ring right away, as this will send a direct message that you are ready to "commit" and the other person may not be at that stage yet.
HOW MUCH SHOULD YOU SPEND ON A PROMISE RING?
Since promise rings have a different look and texture than engagement rings or wedding bands, they are not heavily decorated or elaborately crafted. Promise rings appear more refined and minimalist compared to engagement rings. Therefore, you can spend the same price as a regular gift for your loved one as your budget allows, such as a silver moissanite promise ring is a great choice!
WHAT FINGER DOES A PROMISE RING GO ON?
The promise ring is worn on the ring finger of the left hand usually. It is later replaced by the engagement or a wedding ring, at which point it can be worn on any finger. If you’re married and wear a wedding ring, you can wear it on the ring finger of the right hand.
TYPES OF PROMISE RINGS
From simple to complex, customized to designer, you'll find a large selection of promise rings. We've listed some styles to help you get started.
HEART AND INFINITY PROMISE RINGS
These are matching promise rings that you can purchase together as a couple. The most popular style is the "infinity" themed design as it represents two hearts that are attracted to each other yet genuine.
SILVER PROMISE RINGS FOR HER
Promise rings are different from engagement rings or wedding bands, and most couples prefer to purchase sterling silver promise rings so that they can be distinguished from engagement rings or wedding bands. Of course, this is not always the case, you can also choose other metals according to preference.
If the man you’re getting a promise ring for isn’t a fan of jewelry, get him something simple, that reminds him of you and is not over the top, such as stainless steel or tungsten rings.
PERSONALISED PROMISE RINGS
Adding more than just a personal touch, personalized promise rings can be engraved with each other’s fingerprints, anniversary date, a message of love, or a shared symbol of love, such as infinity signs, each other’s initials, or just about anything that is a reflection of your bond.
PROMISE RINGS FOR MULTIPLE PEOPLE
Popular with friends groups, siblings, or parents who want their spouse’s and children’s names on their person. These rings are a version of the personalized promise ring but celebrate the relationship between more than just two people.
If you want to commit to someone special, use our comprehensive guide to plan your gift. You'll be amazed at how rewarding an experience can be.